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The Virgo Curse

The Virgo curse is a real thing. Well, some of us consider it a blessing, not a curse, but it definitely is real either way.

Let’s start at the beginning. Are you a believer in astrological signs and their character traits or do you think it is all nonsense?

Have you ever tried to figure out other people’s signs or read your horoscope hoping for news about good fortune coming your way? How about those online quizzes to see who is the perfect love match for you? I’m willing to bet that you have taken one or two of those in your life. 

Virgo Traits

I’ve always been fascinated by this topic and think I am 99% Virgo, which is (lucky for me), my birth sign. So basically, I am a perfectionist, observant, detail-oriented, methodical and sometimes cold to others. (For a more detailed list of the most common Virgo traits, click here.)

So anyway, I sound like a ball of fun, right? 

Virgo sign
Virgo Sign

I can’t tell you how many people have told me, “I didn’t like you when I first met you. I thought you were a real bitch“.

Well, guess what? I kinda am a bitch and most definitely have a resting bitch face. However, once you get to know me I am the most loyal, dependable girl you will ever meet. 

Virgos, in general, can be seen as aloof, when in reality, we are just taking it all in. It takes me an absurdly long time to warm up to most people and allow them into my inner circle.

Does that make me a bitch or does that make me smart? Most people on this planet probably don’t deserve to be part of my life anyway, so I see it as eliminating all the middle man drama.

What is the Virgo Curse?

Are you wondering what “the Virgo Curse” is? Sorry to disappoint you, but it’s not voodoo magic or something unearthed when ancient tombs were disturbed. Basically, the Virgo Curse is everyday life being a little more difficult due to our personality traits.

For example, I am such a neat freak and perfectionist that it often interferes with my life. My fellow Virgos can back me up on this one; perfection is a way of life and anything less is simply unacceptable

My kids make fun of me because I clean before and after the housecleaners come over. Some of you are probably shaking your heads and saying, “Well yes, of course you clean before they come over. That makes perfect sense“. You are my people.

Some of you are thinking that is the weirdest thing you have ever heard. And some of you are still caught up on the fact that I have housecleaners. 

Virgo constellation
Virgo constellation

To the Virgo mind, everything has to be absolutely perfect at all times. I can’t let the cleaners come into a messy house because then they would think I am not perfect. If the cleaners come and leave a knick knack at the wrong angle, that is enough to make me twitch.

The pillows on the sofa must be arranged in just the right spot. The rugs in the bathroom need to be on certain tiles. You get the idea – everything has a place and everything must be in it’s place. The house feels unsettled if things are not in the exact spot they should be. 

It’s not just cleaning though; literally everything in my life needs to be perfect. If I park crooked, I need to fix it. When I volunteer for a project, it must be the most mind-blowing thing ever. If I take the time to do my hair, every strand needs to be perfectly in place. 

The Virgo Curse affects all parts of life

Karen Phelps, the motivational speaker, taught a class years ago and said, “Done is better than perfect“. I have told myself that a million times over the past few years, but the perfectionist, Virgo curse still haunts me.

For most people, yes, done is better than perfect. For me, it must be perfect or I obsess over it. 

I think this is part of the reason why my weight loss journey has been so difficult. Every little mistake or slip up makes me hate myself because I feel like I should look perfect by now.

It’s been seven months – I should be skinny, I shouldn’t have any cellulite, I should have banished my mental demons by now. My doctor even told me that I am too hard on myself, but that is just my personality.

Is it OCD?

Believe me, I have tried to relax and let go of things. Rationally, I know that things don’t need to be perfect all the time, but The Virgo Curse keeps popping up and forcing me to at least attempt to make everything perfect.

Other people (like my husband) don’t understand and think I am overreacting, but in my mind, everything absolutely must be done and it must be done right now and it must be perfect. Also, it must be done MY way, which makes me a bit of a micromanager.

And no, I don’t have OCD. Ask any Virgo and they will tell you the same thing. We just like things a certain way.

Trust me on this. If you are reading this because you have a Virgo in your life, try this little experiment. Buy them this or this for their birthday, an anniversary or a holiday.

Now watch how excited they get. Do you honestly think other people get that ecstatic about storage and organization?

So what do you think? Are you a perfectionist too or do you think I am crazy for obsessing over the little things? Is this a curse or a blessing?

Remember, you can check out the more detail list of Virgo traits by clicking here.

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