If you are reading this, I’m guessing that you are considering having some type of weight loss surgery. Maybe you have a friend or relative who recently had the surgery and you have been watching their progress. Maybe you are researching the different types of surgery and looking for a doctor. Or maybe you are already deep in the process and close to your surgery date.
I think you should be 100% prepared and educated if you are truly considering having the surgery, which is why you need to hear all the reasons you should not be having it done. If you are putting yourself through a long, exhausting, expensive process and a potentially dangerous surgery for any of these reasons, it may be time to reconsider
7 reasons why you should not have weight loss surgery
1. To have a bikini body
Yes, you will lose weight. Yes, you will be smaller than you were before. However, you will still have stretch marks and scars from the surgery. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but you will still have cellulite. You will also have loose skin. You can use every cream and supplement on the market, but you will still have loose skin. Some people do not have as much as others, but there is no way to completely avoid it. It might be your arms, your stomach, your thighs or unfortunately, all over. Unless you are in the .00001% of people who can drop one hundred pounds and not have any lasting effects, you probably still won’t look like a Victoria’s Secret model when you reach your goal weight. Sorry to bust your bubble, but you want the truth, right?
2. To make someone jealous
Did someone make fun of you in middle school? Or maybe you had the high school boyfriend who dumped you because you were chubby? For years, you have built up fantasies in your mind about the day that you lose weight and make them regret it? This will be the defining moment, where you will emerge from your cocoon as a beautiful butterfly, right? Again, I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but they probably won’t even notice that you have lost weight. You are stuck on them because it made a lasting impression in your life, but it wasn’t a defining moment for them, so they have probably forgotten about it (and you). And what if they do notice? What if they tell you that you look fabulous? What if they beg you to take them back? Would you want them in your life anyway? Nope? Ok, time to move on.
3. To save your relationship
The truth is, many times, this surgery makes your relationship rocky, especially if you have been together for a long time. Your partner is used to you being heavy and your relationship has formed around that. If your partner has had to assume the caregiver role, it could really throw the relationship for a loop because you have to create new roles for both of you. Many partners start to develop jealousy, which you need to be prepared for and open to discussing. Communication is key here; talk before and after the surgery about how both of you are feeling.
4. Because you think it will be easy
I hate to break it to you, but this process is anything but easy. You will be recording ounces of water and counting grams of protein for the rest of your life. You still have to exercise and carbs are still not your friend. The surgery is a tool to help you along the journey and it will jump start the weight loss, but it all comes back to you, how devoted you are and how hard you are willing to work.
5. To get ahead at work
Only the thin, attractive people get promoted at your job, right? Unless you are a stripper, that is probably not accurate. That is just the lie that you are telling yourself so you don’t have to face the truth – that for some reason OTHER than your weight, you are not being promoted. Right now, your weight is the probably the reason for most of the failures in your life, at least in your mind. If you take away the weight, then what will be your excuse?
6. To get noticed by someone
If you have your eye on a certain someone and you think that once you are thin, they will magically notice you, then you might want to think again. If they are the right person for you, they would have noticed you by now, whether you are 100 or 700 pounds. Strong relationships aren’t built on looks – always remember that.
7. Because someone told you that you needed to lose weight
You can only do this for you. It won’t work if you are trying to please someone else. This is a life changing surgery, but it is your life and your decision. If your parents, your doctor or your partner are pushing you into it, it won’t last for the long haul.
Choosing to have weight loss surgery is a big decision and you should make that decision with your eyes wide open. Look at all the pros and cons and decide if it is right for you. Make sure you are completely informed about the risks and possible side effects. And remember, you are doing this for you, not for anyone else.
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